“But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly. But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking. Be not therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.
After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6:6-15
Prayer is the foundation of our life with Christ. Through Jesus, we have an open line of communication to the Father. We can talk to Him anytime, anywhere, about anything. We can ask for things, and we can receive things through prayer. We can bring healing, hope, safety, and strength to others through prayer. When all is lost, we always resort to prayer.
Have you ever thought that someone else can pray better that you? Have you ever thought that God will answer the prayers of a pastor better than He will answer yours? If so, you’re not alone. I’ve found that a lot of people think this way, including myself. But that would mean that God favors one over another. But that my friends is not true. (Read Matthew 18:12-14, or Matthew 20:1-16).
There are all kinds of books out there that teach people how to have an effective prayer life. I’m not saying that they’re bad or anything, but Jesus has already taught us how to pray. One thing that I’ve learned in my walk is that there is no substitute for fellowship with God. You can read every book, watch every video, listen to every lecture, and still be just as spiritually void as you were when you started. I’ve said it before, you can’t learn your way into heaven. If you don’t get the understanding from God, you won’t understand. (Read Matthew 13:10-13).
So what are the keys to having a successful prayer life? When the disciples asked Jesus how to pray, they had the same question in mind. Now keep in mind, the disciples were Jewish, so they grew up praying. If their prayer life was satisfying, they probably wouldn’t have asked.
Here’s what Jesus teaches us about prayer:
The first thing He said was don’t pray like a hypocrite. These are the people who “pray” for other people to hear them “pray”. They’re pretending to pray to God, but they’re really praying to themselves. They want people to hear how good they can pray in order to get the respect of men. (Matthew 6:5). So it pretty obvious that the first thing that Jesus teaches us about prayer is to pray to God, not to a crowd of people.
The next thing that He said was to pray in secret. Some may ask “why in secret?” Again, you’re praying to God, not to people. When we pray, it’s one on one with God. It’s not a show, its personal time between you and God.
Now that you’re alone with God, don’t waste your time reciting prayers that you learned when you were a kid over and over again. Praying the rosary is a lot of work, but it’s in vain. Repeating “Hail Mary’s” and “Our Fathers” will not make God listen to you. Jesus calls praying in vain repetitions something that the heathen do. Think about it, if you had a child, and they needed help with their homework, would you respond better if they came to you saying “Oh parent full of wisdom, I trust that you will be right. Blessed is your work on this paper, and help me finish this homework tonight. Holy parent mother of mine, help me with this math so that I can get to bed on time.” What if that was the only thing that your kid said to you, over and over and over again? Would you feel like your kid loves you? No! You would feel like your kid want’s help with his homework! There is no quality parent / child time there, just repetitious requests! Jesus said that God already knows what you need, even before you ask Him. Just like you would already know that your kid needs help with his homework when his teacher calls you saying that juniors grades are making her look bad as a teacher.
Now that Jesus has told us how not to pray, He tells us how we should pray. “Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name”. When you pray, remember who you are praying to. He is God, He is Holy. He’s your Father, not your buddy. Humble yourself before Him. Understand that it took the Cross for you to have this conversation. Yes He wants you to talk to Him, He loves you. But don’t forget the awesome power that is God. You wouldn’t run around in a lightning storm holding a ten foot metal pole would you? So don’t blow off the fact that you are in the presence of the One who made the lightning just by thinking about it! In the modern church, God has been presented as a big teddy bear. A celestial santa claus if you will. Listen, God is very, very good. But He’s not some old guy walking around up in the clouds seeing who’s been naughty and who’s been nice. God is intimately involved with everything that goes on with the world. His love for us is not to be taken lightly.
“Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven,” When you pray, understand that it’s what God wants that matters. His will is perfect, and you cannot pray against His will. We like to think that we know what’s best, but as humans, we’re wrong more than we’re right. So when you pray, understand that God is in control. He calls the shots.
“Give us this day our daily bread.” This is a prayer that gets answered daily for billions of people around the world. If you have a computer and electricity to read this, you probably have food in your kitchen. God has already provided you with that need before you needed it. But food isn’t the only bread that Jesus talks about. He talks about his body as bread, and He talks about the Word of God being bread too. So when you pray, ask for God to be a part of your daily life. You need that more than you need food.
“And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.” Jesus talks about forgiveness right after food. So it would appear that forgiveness is vital to a successful prayer life. Through Jesus, God has forgiven me for so many sins. So I can’t hold things against other people. It’s so easy to say, but it’s so hard to do. That’s why Jesus said to pray for this daily. I went through a bad spiritual dry spell recently. And it was because I harbored bitterness and hatred towards other people. Yes people can be rude, arrogant, and just plain mean. But I’ve been all of those things too. We must live in forgiveness, or else we will live in judgment.
“And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.” We live in a world full of temptations. Obviously God doesn’t want us to sin, so we must trust God to keep us away from the traps. God would never lead us into temptation, but temptations are always around. The only way to stay away from temptation is to stay focused on God. And if you stay focused on God, you are in His kingdom. I believe that Jesus is saying to not only pray that we won’t be led into temptation, but to be delivered from the evil parts of us that want to sin. And only the power and the glory of God can do that. There’s even the promise that Gods power and glory will never run out!
This is the way that Jesus teaches us to pray. As you can see, it’s not just a prayer, it’s a lifestyle. Prayer is not asking God to give you stuff. It’s about being a part of His kingdom. remember, God already knows what you need before you even ask for it. What we think we need doesn’t always translate into what God knows we need. It’s far more important to have fellowship with God than to have a prayer life full of asking for things.